10 Signs your wounded inner child is affecting your life

Mariza Danielle
5 min readOct 15, 2020

That’s why you should pay attention to them.

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The first known mention of the inner child was made by Carl Jung, a respected Swiss psychiatrist, and psychotherapist, who mentioned this structure as an archetype in the book The psychology of the child archetype, in which he said:

“In every adult, there lurks a child — an eternal child, something that is always becoming, is never completed, and calls for unceasing care, attention, and education. That is the part of the personality that wants to develop and become whole.”

There is no exact definition, but to give you an idea, the inner child is part of your psyche where your memories, sensations, and emotions from your childhood are stored. It is your most sensitive, innocent, and happy part. It is where the purest feelings of a child are kept, but it also carries the experiences, traumas, emotions, dynamics, and references of your childhood.

It is the right of every child to feel loved, protected, cared for, and safe. However, we know that the reality is very different. In a world in which we have not been educated to deal with our emotions, the chance that our basic child needs have been met is minimal. The traumas and unpleasant childhood experiences are carried throughout life by this wounded inner child when his deepest pains and emotions are not welcomed, seen, and supported.

These childhood conflicts appear in adulthood are the most varied: dysfunctional behaviors, constant guilt, limiting beliefs, diseases, co-dependent and abusive relationships, financial failures, abuses, emotional lack of control, etc.

It is living with the emotions of a wounded child in the life of an adult. And of the most varied symptoms that exist, I gathered the most common ones to help you understand if your inner child is hurt and influencing your choices, behaviors, and way of looking at life.

It is worth remembering that many of these sensations are generated from a child’s perception. Parents are often incredibly present and loving, yet the child may negatively perceive some of his…

Mariza Danielle

Brazilian psychoanalyst living around the world trying to understand the human experience. Body & behavioral analyst, Coach, Systemic family constellations.